Well first of all congrats!! I am a huge fan of eloping (obviously) and cannot be more excited for you! Or maybe you’re considering eloping, and haven’t decided yet. That’s okay too, hopefully this article helps you to decide if it’s the right decision for you or not. And if it is, I am here to help you turn your elopement vision into a reality!
Whatever stage you’re in, if you have any questions at all about how to elope in California or anywhere else, this is the guide for you!
Eloping is not just "running away to get married"
Eloping is getting married in an intentional, intimate way that is unique to you. Whether that means climbing a mountain just the two of you and saying your vows on the peak or having an intimate celebration in the woods by a lake with your closest family and friends, eloping can be whatever you want it to be.
If you've been thinking about ways to make your wedding feel more like you or focus more on your relationship, eloping might be for you!
Let's ditch the conventional, and celebrate your relationship in a way that is true to you, what do ya say?!
Whether you're ready to elope and dive right into planning or just musing the idea, continue reading this guide for the best tips for how to elope in 2023!
This is that fun daydreamy part where you get to imagine your best day ever. Grab some drinks and snacks, have a fun date with your partner dreaming up your amazing elopement day. This should be fun, you by no means need to be locking in your location and dates right now, but this is a nice way to get inspired and excited about what’s ahead! Here are some questions to help you brainstorm:
If you’re into vision boards, this would be the perfect time to start one for your elopement vision! I recommend you download the Pinterest Save Button Chrome Extension that allows you to pin anything you find online to your board and makes it so much easier.
A lot of people tend to think of a number in their head and label it as their budget without knowing how realistic it may or may not be. My best advice for budgeting is to choose the top things that mean the most to you, find out how much they might cost, and go from there. Remember to be flexible with this, and allow yourself some wiggle room.
One of the many great things about eloping is that you get to choose everything. And I mean EVERYTHING. So you can make your day as extravagant or as simple as you like.
Elopements can cost around $10-15,000. Keep in mind - this may sound like a big number upon first thought but the average cost of a wedding in the United States is $28,000. The biggest expense for a wedding is usually the venue which can be around $10,000. Another great thing about elopements is you are avoiding this! There are a few venues you can choose to elope at, but most elopements happen in state parks or public land. This means you are only paying for a permit for the location which is usually $50-200 (not $10,000... *breathes sigh of relief).
Check out my guide How Much Does it Cost to Elope in California for more details and tips about budgeting for your elopement! I break down the details of what you're spending money on and go in depth about how much things can cost, and how to choose where you want to spend more vs. less.
This is my FAVORITE part of the elopement planning process. It is so fun to brainstorm ideas for locations and it sets up the base for everything else you want to do or include in your day.
What location makes you feel the most excited? Do you want to go somewhere new? Or maybe a place that is special to you and your partner?
Choose your location before your date. Why? There may only be certain seasons or months where your dream location is accessible or has the weather you want.
Have no idea where you want to elope? Here are some questions to help you brainstorm:
If you still aren't sure on your preferred location, ask your photographer! As an adventure elopement photographer, I am an expert in this field and will create a personalized location list for you and help you choose the best location for your special day. If you are looking at California, you can also check out my guide Where to Elope in California for more inspo!
If you've been searching the internet and maybe reading other blogs about how to elope as well, this is probably a different one than what you've been reading. But I put this in here for a reason!
I think determining ahead of time how much you want to adventure on your elopement day is important and a good jumping off point in planning just like location.
Determining how adventurous your day is helps make other decisions like timelines, if and how many family members and friends to include in your day, outfits, and other activities surrounding your day.
Do you want to take a helicopter to a glacier in Alaska and then glacier trek to a spot to say your vows?
Do you want to wake up at a luxury resort and get a message and make your promises to each other on a sea cliff at sunset?
Whatever type of adventure suits you is what we will plan off of because this day is yours and you get to do whatever you want!
Do you want to elope just the two of you? Maybe one or two friends? Just your parents? Or maybe just your dog?
Keep in mind who you want to include in your day, and how accessible your location is for family and friends to join you or not. If you include 10-15+ people I would recommend considering a wedding planner/coordinator as well.
There are lots of great ways to include guests in your elopement without having them present as well. You can have them write letters for you to read, or Facetime them before or after your ceremony. Having a small get together or big party when you return back home is a great way to include and celebrate with everybody but still having the intimate ceremony and elopement just for yourselves.
Do you imagine a winter wonderland day with snow on the ground during your elopement? Maybe a warm day with the sun beaming down, or some foggy pacific northwest mood? Once you have your location, it will probably narrow down the months or seasons in which you choose your date.
Unsure? Another great time to consult your photographer! I know the best times of year to elope in most locations and am more than happy to help you decide.
Is privacy important to you? Especially if you have chosen a popular location, I would recommend choosing off season or a weekday! Weekdays are a great time to elope to avoid crowds, there's also a higher chance your preferred vendors are available for your date.
This can actually be the first or second step in your process of eloping since elopement photographers can help you with the other steps! But if you haven’t yet then do it here!
You should book a photographer who specializes in elopements, not just any photographer. Elopement photographers have a lot of knowledge about how to elope and can help you with all of the above steps. A wedding photographer will have the skills to photograph your day, but not the knowledge of planning an elopement regarding locations, weather, times, permits, and leave no trace principles for adventurous outdoor elopements. That's why I highly recommend specifically finding an elopement photographer. I love to help my couples craft their dream elopement and make their visions a reality!
Things to look for in your elopement photographer:
Other vendors include your florist, hair and makeup artists, officiant, planner, etc. Once you know your location and date, reach out to vendors as soon as possible. They book up fast!
Choosing local vendors is always a good idea, as they are familiar with the area and weather etc.
Eloping on a weekday is a good way to secure your ideal vendors who may be booked out on weekends for up to a year.
Now’s the time to decide where you want to stay and what you want to do while you’re there.
Book your flights, plan your road trip, whatever you want to do for transportation. Don’t forget to get a rental car if you fly in!
Book your hotel or airbnb. Or If you’ve decided to camp, make sure to reserve your campsites if possible so you aren’t scrambling to find one upon arrival.
Okay this is the super fun part, deciding what you want your day to be like!
Here is a list of example activities you could do on your elopement day:
Soak in hot springs or hot tubs
Go on a helicopter tour
Swim under a waterfall or in local swimming holes
Go zip-lining through a forest
Have a picnic on a mountain with an epic view
Have a bonfire and roast s’mores together
Check out tourist spots in a city
When choosing attire, make sure to consider the time and location of your elopement. Will it be cold or hot? Could it rain? If you are planning on walking or hiking to your location consider hiking boots or something comfortable and safe for your feet. If you really want heels in some photos, you can always bring them along. As your photographer I am always happy to help carry a couple of things with me as well to help you out!
There are no rules for what you wear! It’s your elopement, and you can do whatever you want.
Purchase other details such as shoes, rings, stationary, blankets, and any other details you'd like. These things can all be photographed as part of the storytelling of your day as well.
This may not be as fun or exciting but it is important!
You need to acquire a marriage license to get legally married. Marriage licenses in California are valid for 90 days. You also need an officiant and 1-2 witnesses. (I am happy to sign as witness as your photographer!)
You may also need a special use permit for state parks, national parks, or other locations. This can be $50-200. Ask your photographer or google to find out if your location requires this.
Woo! You eloped!! Now wondering how to share your exciting news with family and friends?
Here are a few ideas to announce your elopement:
The ultimate guide for how to elope in California, but it can be applied to any location you want! If you don’t know where to start, I highly recommend this guide!
Decided on a California elopement but not sure which location to choose? This post is for you! The best locations to elope in California from the perspective of a California elopement photographer.
Budgeting can feel overwhelming, this guide will help navigate budgeting for your California elopement as well as tips for being cost-effective.